You can’t even talk to the drycleaner without blushing, never mind that Brad Pitt look-alike. Forget the old advice about hair-flicking and lip-licking. Barrie Gillies and Ute Junker reveal some instant icebreakers for the terminally insecure.
POSSIBLY THE EIGHT MOST useless words in the English language are:
“Just go up to him and say something.” As in “See that Johnny Depp look-alike over there? He probably wants to meet you as badly as you want to meet him.” Yeah, right.
You know the drill. There you are-at work, at a party, walking down the street. There, in the same place, is a guy you’d like to get to know better-because of his eyes, his smile, his leather jacket, whatever.
So how do you get together? If only it were as easy as a simple conversation, but the sad fact of the matter is that the world divides into two types of women: those who can confidently go up and start a conversation with a man, and those who would rather chew their own leg off. And if you’re in the other group makes shark infested waters seem appealing.
You’ve read all the “How-To-Talk-To-A-Man” guides, but if you follow their advice, meeting someone becomes more complicated than guerrilla warfare, with how to make memorise on what to say when he does. Either that, or they’re fill of advice about hair-flicking and lip licking that makes one feel like an extra from Grease.
So what to do? Sure, you could play by The Rules… and spend the rest of your life waiting for him to make the first move. Or you can read our no-nonsense, no-Valium-required guide to making the first move. We talked to real men, real women and relationship about the best ways to approach a man.
Of course, no plan is foolproof. Despite your warm smile and irresistible personality, you may not be his type. Don’t worry. Focus on the next guy who sparks your interest… your luck bound to improve.
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